Playing With #Barbies, Internet #Trolling and My Own #Feminism

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Playing with Barbies

When I was a little girl I used to play with Barbie dolls, brush their long, blonde hair and color in their perfect faces with magic markers to give them a beautiful, fresh new look. As I got older and explored the enormously eclectic collection of music we had in our household, I became more fascinated with darker bands with an “edge” like KISS and Black Sabbath. Soon my Barbies reflected my musical tastes changing from “pretty” to “punk” and Barbie had chain link jewelry and safety-pin clothing.

Striving to look like Barbie dolls and what women think men want has become an obsession for some, like real-life Barbie Valeria Lukyanova who has had multiple surgeries to attain the slim waist, big eyes and large breasts the plastic creation boasts. Many women aim for the skinny Kate Moss look when what we’re seeing more and more of in Hollywood is the return of curves and the “booty,” not that it ever left. From Nicki Minaj to Kim Kardashian, the booty surrounds us and is something we are supposed to want to attain. Thankfully, I have no problem there! 😉

My Own Feminism

When I wrote “Feminism, Selfies and Over 40 Rules I Refuse to Follow” I had a lot of positive feedback. But I also received one scathing email from a woman I affectionately call “The B.” (Click here to read The Bitch is Back) My point in those blogs was that being a feminist no longer means what it used to mean; equal rights, the opposite of Barbie doll looks and a heaping helping of brains. Now with the popularity of shows like Girls and starlets dropping “The F Word” left and right, it doesn’t seem to hold much weight.

Be who you are. Be confident. Wear what you want. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re too old, too skinny, too fat or too much of a “Mom” to dress how you want, or take selfies or live your life. Moms can be sexy too. It is your life. People who judge others are insecure and unhappy about themselves.

Don’t wait for your husband, your boyfriend or anyone else tell you that you are beautiful. Take a look in the mirror and tell yourself. You don’t need anyone else to be a strong, confident, smart and beautiful woman. Confidence is the new black.

Internet Trolls

And above all, don’t be fake. There are enough superficial people out there.  Case in point– internet trolls. Now, instead of playing with real dolls, people make up fake social media “dolls” with pretty pictures of models. They create these fake “people” to validate their points online, fight a political battle, troll “friends” or” frenemies” or simply to make them feel better about themselves in general. I’ve had friend requests from such “people.”

My how this world has changed. I refuse to live a fake life. I am who I am, mistakes and all. Nobody is perfect. Beauty fades, but brains, wit and originality last a lifetime. Beauty comes from within. I don’t know about you, but my self-worth is not validated by how many likes or comments I get on a Facebook post.  My value and self-worth comes from who I am as a person and how I treat others, not from my bra cup, waist size or Facebook friends I have.

What about you? Chime in below!


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. ontherecordwomen
    Dec 17, 2014 @ 01:04:04

    Hey I like your post! Would to be interested in submitting it to blog about women’s issues/experiences? I would credit you of course!


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