#Irony – I Got ‘The News’ on #WorldCancerDay About #MyLeftBoob

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The Empire State Building was lit up in orange and blue for World Cancer Day on Wednesday, Feb. 4. Ironically, that’s when I got “the news” that I have “it,” “that,” the awful thing many simply refer to as “The ‘C’ Word.” I have breast cancer but it doesn’t have me so until it’s gone I shall think of it as“The ‘Other’ ‘C’ Word”…. you know the one.

If there is anything I have learned over the past week it is this– people do not act the way you’d expect them to act when you tell then “the news.” That’s because people are people. We are all different and unique and have all been through our own tragedies and triumphs.  The ones who you’d think would be there for you the most may disappear entirely and not even call you for days.

Most people have the same reaction; “I’m so sorry,” “hang in there,” “my thoughts and prayers are with you,” or “let me know if there is anything I can do.” This is sweet and nice and good. Others want to help and fix the problem right away. Unfortunately cancer doesn’t “work” like that. Cancer is a stubborn bitch but I am way more stubborn. I am Irish and the youngest of 6. I always have had to fight to be heard. So there, stupid cancer.

The ones who know you best will say “you got this,” “you’re strong,” “you can do it” or “kick ass, you’re a tough Mama.” But then there are those who respond, “Oh man.” Or worse, don’t respond at all.

I’ve realized that you can never expect people to act how you want them to. You can only choose your reaction. And my reaction is this: I need to stay calm and think positive thoughts. I have a battle to fight and can’t waste time or energy on people who are not there when I need them most. What I have also realized in this short time is that I don’t need them. I have my family, my friends an awesome support group beyond what I ever imagined who are here to lift me up, make me smile and keep me in good spirits.

This chick wrote an article about what it feels like to wait in a waiting room and find out whether or not you have cancer. She didn’t have it. PHEW for her! Well how about what it feels like to go through an exam on Friday, get an ultra sound and mammogram on Monday, get a biopsy and another mammogram the following Monday and have to wait all the way until the following Wednesday to find out over the phone that you DO actually have breast cancer? Here is what it feels like:

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For a few seconds, you can’t breathe. You feel like you’re choking. Life comes to a screeching halt. The doctor’s words echo in your mind before settling down into your head and into reality, “You have breast cancer.” After you hang up the phone and tell your husband, who already knows by the look on your face, you hear yourself say it for the first time, “I have breast cancer.” Nobody in my family has this so how could I have it? It is so surreal. So many thoughts swirling through my brain. Wait, is it in my brain? How will they know?

The week before you find out you think about your life and if you’ve made a good life for your family and your children. You think about what you could have done better. How you could have spent more time or been a more positive influence and role model. And then you are slapped with that reality. NOW. Each day counts. Each moment counts. But it’s okay. I am strong. I WILL beat this.

THAT is what it feels like to get “the news.” It sucks.

So before you go making a cancer faux pas, check out the 3 questions someone going through this does not want to hear or talk about:

  1. What stage are you in?
  2. What type of cancer is it?
  3. What caused it?
It doesn’t matter what type, what stage or what caused it because the only thing that matters is that it is getting treated….SOON. What matters is that we found it early, I am a young, strong sassy Irish/Latina lassie and we are going to get it taken care of.  My Mom is from the Bronx and taught all 6 of us how to fight so I got this! 🙂
 
My new motto is “Stay calm and think positive” so I don’t want to worry or focus on anything else but getting myself better as soon as possible and keeping a good frame of mind. I will update as details and test results are revealed.
The best thing to do for me or anyone going through this is not react with an “Oh man,” or “Oh my God, Stage___? Are you serious? Mine wasn’t THAT bad,” or anything else similarly negative.
BE POSITIVE. BE SUPPORTIVE. BE FUNNY. THIS is what we need.

So how much do you love and support me? Enough to get #MyLeftBoob trending on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram? Everyone who loves and supports me in this battle, guy or girl, should take a selfie with their left boob prominently displayed with the hash tag #MyLeftBoob and tag me @WendiPopRock.

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What a looonnngggg #strange week it’s been! #TGIF#wildchild #crazy #redhead I used to hate my hair, now I’m embracing my #curls because #Dove told me to…among other reasons. #keepcalm & #thinkpositive I’m not really a #deadhead #MyLeftBoob

10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Fern Blair Hart
    Feb 07, 2015 @ 11:31:39

    Hi Wendy

    I saw yourname on the prayer chain list and just want to say that I am mad as hell you have this disease that I don’t even like to name.

    It seems that most things that can be said right now sound very cliched but if I can be of some help to you, here I am.

    Reply

    • wendipoprockct
      Feb 07, 2015 @ 17:48:55

      Thanks so much for taking the time to comment Fern. I truly appreciate your support and prayers! 🙂

      Reply

  2. Sariea Zann Robertson
    Feb 08, 2015 @ 09:59:50

    Wendy, my dear sweet friend, you have my endless prayers and support always. You will beat this. I love you!

    Reply

    • wendipoprockct
      Feb 09, 2015 @ 19:26:55

      Thanks Sariea! Love you too! I am going to come out of this maybe with a little bit smaller left boob but with an even stronger body and mind! 🙂

      Reply

  3. maria alonte
    Feb 08, 2015 @ 19:51:08

    you are strong and tough and amazing…you will beat this without a doubt! …and by the way…you are a phenomenal writer

    Reply

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