Where Have All the #Flowers Gone? No More #Classy

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Georgia O’Keeffe, Series I White and Blue Flower Shapes, 1919

In Greek mythology, art and literature, flowers have represented women and female sexuality.  American painter Georgia O’Keeffe is known for her work which many have said look like female genitalia.


The Aztecs’ goddess of sexuality and fertility was named Xochiquetzal, which means “flower standing upright.” She carried a bouquet of flowers and wore a floral wreath in her hair.

The Greeks’ floral goddess was named Chloris. The Romans called her Flora and honored her with an annual celebration called the Floralia. Flora was a symbol for nature and flowers and was known as a fertility goddess.

But what about now? Where have all the dainty female flowers gone? It seems today young girls and women are not at all concerned with dignity, class and grace, and instead have more of an “in your face” attitude with the mission to shock and get attention with their words and dress. The problem is that some of these young girls don’t even know what they are saying.

Examples of young girls posts I’ve seen on Facebook and Twitter:

“Go suck a fat c*ck”

“She sucks so much lady d*ck”

“Hey sh*t d*cik”

These are girls? Ladies? Who talks like this? Apparently now this is acceptable and the norm. Can you imagine the sex symbols of yesteryear talking like this? Can you picture Marilyn Monroe, Rita Hayworth or Mae West saying to Cary Grant, “Hey sh*t d*cik, why don’t you come up and see me sometime?” No. They never would because they have style, grace and class– something today’s girls and young women are sorely lacking.

I recently saw a Tweet by a teen girl that I had to Google about “Lady d*ck.” I was shocked when I saw the definition from Urban Dictionary:

lady-d*ck – an enlarged clit to the point it is like a small penis
“most female pro wrestlers probably have lady-d*ck”

THIS is the term young girls use to insult each other these days? On a public forum? Where Have All the Flowers Gone was a song originally written about war but can still be applicable today for the war we should be waging on the decline of morals.

“Where have all the young girls gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the young girls gone?
Long time ago”

We all know that 2014 was the “Year of the Booty” with pop stars J-Lo, Iggy Azalea and Nicki Minaj all celebrating their derrière in videos and songs. And let’s not forget Kim K. breaking the internet. These are now young girls’ “role models.”

Yes, these women are talented and beautiful but what kind of message is their music and constant booty shaking sending our young women? To be successful and loved you need to have a great booty and show it often? You need to simulate sex acts in public? You need to “give men what they want” as J-Lo says? But then, conversely, if a girl dresses “slutty” and is raped, society says she asked for it.

We need to build our daughters’ self-esteem and make her feel valued and worthy from the inside out. Tell her that her brain and mind is the most powerful part of her body.  They should feel valued for their brains over their bodies.

Women and girls should dress however makes them feel confident and not worry what others think but they should be themselves, not a walking talking carbon copy of today’s pop star. They need to realize that the images they see is unattainable to “regular” people. Celebrities have access to personal trainers, plastic surgeons, nutritionists and a team of hairstylists and makeup artists to make them look perfect 24/7.

The”F” word has been redefined over andover with celebrities like Taylor Swift and Beyonce and hopping the bandwagon. But what does it mean today to be a feminist? Equal rights for everyone? Girl power? Embracing your bodies just the way they are? All of the above?

If you are reading this and you are the parent of a young girl, have a talk with her. Lift her up, build up her self-esteem and tell her to be a leader not a follower. Girls will attract the wrong type of guys if they continue to act like slutty and trashy without class.

Celebrate your female-ness and/or human-ness the best way you know how. Love yourself. Respect yourself. BE yourself. You can still be a badass female who stands up for her beliefs and speaks her mind AND has class. Just sayin’.

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