#MyLeftBoob Day 6 Post Chemo: Measure Your Life in Love


“Remember the love, share love, give love, spread love….measure your life in love.” ~Rent

“Love” sand drawing done by Ruby Mitchell, Centerville Beach, Cape Cod, 2013.

Later today I will have the honor of being treated to one of three therapeutic massages to help with the 3 herniated discs in my neck,thanks to the kindness of a complete stranger.

I am blown away by the number of good-hearted folks out there whom I’ve never even met who support me in my battle. It makes me sort of sad for those who I thought would be there who are not. You learn who your real friends and family are when facing something this serious and you really learn tho value and appreciate those who are there.

Life is about more than holding on to the past and petty disagreements. Life is about the here and now and the future. If someone wants to throwaway a relationship after numerous times were made at making peace, then it’s out of my hands.

At this point in my life, for my physical and mental health, I can only be surrounded by positive, uplifting people who support me in my treatment decisions and respect my wishes.

This battle has not been easy and I’ve had to deal with many struggles along the way but I have tried to maintain a positive attitude throughout because I know this season of my life is only temporary and soon new life will bloom and spring will come.

It’s very hard to be told that you have cancer, then that yours is rare– Triple Negative that only 15% of women get, then, on top of that, that you ALSO have an even rarer type than that called Metaplastic that only 1% of women get. AND even after treatment is done, it can come back. Then imagine having to tell that to your 3 kids, your husband, your family.

Oh, and that the only treatment is 3-4 hours of long, hard ACT chemo every other week or 16 weeks instead of over 3 weeks to make sure they kill every last cancer cell after removing the tumor on 2/17.

Then there was the 2 E.R. visits due to infections and allergic reactions, 5 dental visits followed by a tooth extraction before I could begin chemo, and a lot of emotional challenges with mostly well-meaning people.

But despite all of this, I am reminded over and over that GOOD always prevails over evil. Actions speak louder than words. LOVE WINS. What matters in life is how you treat others, the legacy you leave, and the GOOD you put out there in this world- the giving you do for others.

For the last 15 years I have strived to do just that through charitable work, volunteerism and however else I can help out in my community. And now I feel that God, the universe, karma, or whatever you want to call it is showering with me with blessings on a daily basis and I am so eternally grateful.

EVERYONE is touched by cancer. Cancer does not discriminate between age, gender, race, religion, political parties, rich, middle or lower class. Everyone knows someone who has battled or lost their life to cancer and THAT is heartbreaking tragedy.

I don’t believe people “lose” their cancer battle if they pass on. As long as they fight they are not losers. They are winners. They fought the good fight and they live on in the hearts of all those who love them.

I’m only in the beginning of my journey but I know that after I WIN this battle I will do all that I can to pay forward all the goodness and kindness others have shown my family in our time of need.

So this is my long-winded way of saying THANK YOU for the prayer shawls, and the hats, the cards, the gift certificates, the crosses, Mass cards, books, breast cancer socks, the donations, the care packages, the meals, and prayers, and well wishes, and funny videos to make me smile, the constant daily support, and the list goes on and on.

I couldn’t fight this fight with positivity and humor and dignity without all of your help. May it all come back to you in abundance. ย Next chemo #2: Thursday, April 23, 2015

Thank you all for the LOVE.

“Measure your life in love.” ~Rent

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